“Tell people that you appreciate their hard work, because you might be the ONLY person who EVER tells them. (1 Corinthians 8:1)”
― Joyce Meyer
“Add value to everyone you meet today by making them feel good about themselves in some way.”
― Joyce Meyer
I learnt a long time ago that our thoughts don’t bless anybody. You can think good thoughts about somebody all day long but it is not going to do them one bit of good until you make them hear it. That’s when it does something on the inside of them.It turns on a light in them. Verbalize what you appreciate about people to them. It has a positive effect on them.Be free with your compliments.
There’s nothing so heartwarming, so refreshing and so beautiful than a compliment that is so true and so pure and without any ulterior motives. Don’t always wait for very special occasions or moments to make people know how you feel about them. Who knows, those moments may never come. Why not go out of your way instead and make this very moment special for them. Tell the people in your life what you like about them and what they mean to you; and mean it. Mean it when you say it and say it because you mean it.
It is often said that gratitude unexpressed is ingratitude. Just a simple “thank you!” and/or “God bless you!” after receiving a kind service or help. “Wow! You look so beautiful!” when people have looked their best. “Hi, been a long time; just checking on you to see how you’re doing” makes people know you care. That’s kind of you. I love you. I appreciate you. I admire you. I miss you. I believe in you. I care. I’ll be there for you. I’ve got your back. Don’t give up; you can make it. You can count on me. You can do it; yes, you can! That was great; keep it up, etc. Don’t keep quiet over thesethings. They are the simple little things that make a big difference and leave lasting impressions on the hearts and minds of the people in our lives. But we just don’t realize it.Henceforth, begin to intentionally take time to make a difference in people’s life with your words. When see something good in someone, tell them. Say it. Tell people what’s good about them and you’re helping to build them up in that good thing. When you believe the best in people and you speak it,you help to draw out the best in them.
And listen, if you can’t say anything good don’t say anything bad. Bad dampens people’s spirits. However, don’t get me wrong; when I say don’t say anything bad I don’t mean we shouldn’t point it out when people go wrong. Far from that. I think the Bible provides a better way of going about that. It says to speak the truth in love (Ephesians 4:15). Correction done in love rather helps matters (Proverbs 15:1). And people most likely tend to appreciate rebuke, learn and then change when it is done in this manner. All we need do is be tactful enough. Isn’t it amazing that you can make a huge difference in someone’s life within seconds with just few words? Rather than destroy people with our words, why not bless and build them up instead.
You may say, Sela, but it’s really not a big deal if I don’t tell them? Or I’ve told them before. But that’s wrong! It actually matters a great deal because it may not mean anything to you but those simple words and compliments of yours could mean everything to them. You may have told them before but they need to hear it again and again. The truth is,you cannot love the people in your life enough; and they won’t get tired of hearing you affirm them over and over again.Those words of affirmation are seeds you’re sowing in their lives which they’ll someday thank you for. Your words of affirmation are treasures the people you affirm will carry in their hearts forever.
It’s amazing what we can achieve when we know somebody really believes in us. Somebody needs to know that you believe in them. Don’t believe in people and keep it to yourself. Don’t like something about someone and not let them hear it. People need to know that they are loved.They need your encouragement. They need to know that you think they’ve got what it takes. Somebody needs to know that you appreciate them; that you are for them. Remember, there’s no greater investment in life than in being a people builder. Our relationships are more important than our accomplishments. So, take time to make a difference in somebody else’s life. You see, most people will not reach their full potential without somebody else believing in them. People have accomplished much more; people have realized dreams they thought were not possible; people have become the greats they never saw in themselves all because somebody at some point believed in them and verbally told them they could. They gave them the confidence and urged them on.
History bears us witness. The smiling American preacher Joel Osteen, who is Co-Pastor of America’s largest church, Lakewood Church ― Houston, Texas ascribes his success in ministry to his wife and Co-Pastor Victoria Osteen. He shed some tears during one of his teaching sessions as he recounted how about some ten,fifteen years ago, his wife Victoria told him he had so much in him to offer and how that he’d one day pastor the Lakewood Church and help a lot of people even when he didn’t have the desire to speak at the time. Joel said he didn’t like getting up in front of people and hadn’t even spoken before. Yet, Victoria saw a great preacher in him that he didn’t see in himself at the time; Victoria told him he had got what it takes and took time to make a difference in Joel’s life. She sowed seeds of encouragement in him. She put that confidence in him and urged him on. She made Joel know that she believed in him. Joel Osteen also acknowledged how the congregation ― the people of Lakewoodwould clap and always cheer him on anytime he went up the stage to preach.He said he could have been nervous sometimes but their confidence in him spurred him on. And long story short, Joel Osteen is today that great preacher Victoria and the people of Lakewoodsaw in him many years back. Today, Joel Osteen is reaching and affecting millions of lives all over the world with his gifts in ministry. Rev. Albert Ocran, a Ghanaian Pastor, Consultant, Author and Speaker, loves to always cite the Joel Osteen example. He always says that Joel took over Lakewood Church after his father, John Osteen, went to be with the Lord and increased it ten times over. How could Joel have achieved this if nobody believed in him? Friends, your affirmations matter!
Mr. James Ebo Whyte, popularly known as Uncle Ebo Whyte in theatre and art circles is a renowned successful Ghanaian Playwright, Motivational Speaker and publisher of the famous educative monthly magazine, Rover Report. Once, in his usual motivational “Food For Thought” presentation on the “Super Morning Show” on Joy 99.7 FM an Accra based radio station, he recounted how theChief Operations Manager of the station, Mr. Ekyi Quam, believed in him and encouraged what he was doing when nobody knew him and even when those who knew him said he would not be successful in the industry; and especially also when some of his initial plays had failed. All of that notwithstanding, Mr. Ekyi Quam still had confidence in him and offered him the Joy FM platform.
Mr. Charles Wireko also helped with his publishing firm, Wrenco Limited. Today, Uncle Ebo Whyte is a household name. His magazine is widely read with a readership of over 8, 000 and counting. His plays are a sell-out and attract the attention of the movers and shakers in the country. He is listened to on Joy FM by millions around the world. I call him Ghana’s Uncle because everybody knows and calls him Uncle Ebo Whyte. He said other radio stations now want him on their platforms and have even offered him better deals than what’s at Joy FM and Wrenco Limited but he refused them all. He believes this is the time to show gratitude to Mr. Ekyi Quam, to Joy FM and to Mr. Charles Wireko for believing in him, encouraging his dream and being there for him when no one else was willing.
Same way, I’m sure if you looked back over your own life, you’d find someone who played a very pivotal role in helping you get to where you are today. Somebody believed in you. Somebody had confidence in you.
They encouraged you. Most of the time, they saw something in you that you may not have seen in yourself. They are the reason you took up that challenge. They are the reason you didn’t give up. They are the reason you went into that field and succeeded. They are the reason you’re living your dreams today. They are the reason you are a better person today. And they are the reason you turned out right. God brought them your way. He brought them into your life to help you. It’s time to do same for someone else. It’s time to be God’s channel to somebody else.
Remember it’s not enough to acknowledge or believe something good about somebody in your thoughts or in your heart. You need to let them know. You need to let them hear it. And you need to show them.
“Kind words don’t cost much. Yet they accomplish much.”
― Blaise Pascal